How to Network Without Feeling Fake
For many people, “networking” brings to mind forced small talk and handing out business cards. Good networking is much simpler: building genuine relationships with people in your field, one conversation at a time.
Change What Networking Means to You
Instead of thinking “I need to get something from this person”, think “I want to learn from this person” or “I might be able to help them”. Curiosity and generosity are easier to act on than self-promotion, and people can tell the difference.
Start With People You Already Know
Former colleagues, classmates, teachers and friends of friends are all part of your network. Reconnecting with them is far less awkward than approaching strangers. A simple message — “I saw you moved to a new role, congratulations! How are you finding it?” — is often enough to restart a conversation.
Ask for Advice, Not Jobs
Asking someone for a job puts them on the spot. Asking for twenty minutes of advice about their career path or industry is easy to say yes to. Prepare a few specific questions, respect their time and thank them afterwards. Opportunities often follow naturally from these conversations.
Give Before You Ask
- Share a useful article with someone who would find it interesting.
- Introduce two people who could help each other.
- Congratulate contacts on new roles or achievements.
- Offer your own skills — proofreading, translation, advice in your area.
Small gestures build trust over time.
Use Online Spaces Well
LinkedIn, professional groups and industry forums let you connect across countries — especially useful if you are planning to work abroad. Add a short personal note to connection requests and join discussions with thoughtful comments rather than generic praise.
Follow Up and Stay in Touch
A single conversation rarely creates a strong connection. Send a thank-you message, update people on how their advice helped and check in occasionally. Networking is a long game — the relationships you build now may help you years from now.
Frequently Asked Questions
I am an introvert. Can I still network well? Absolutely. One-to-one conversations, online messages and small events often suit introverts better than large networking evenings.
What should I say in a first message? Keep it short: who you are, why you are contacting them specifically and one clear, easy question.
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